Welcome to the sixth day of our Love Dare Challenge. If you are just starting out, click here to start at the beginning. As you may notice, I am not posting the daily “dares” here on granolaheart.com. In order to follow the dare daily, you’ll need to check out my Facebook or Pinterest (or both). The reason I’m checking in here on today’s dare is because this one is a BIGGIE for me.
Self control in marriage is one of those easier-said-than-done things that tends to erode with time or get buried under obligations, after-school activities, work lunches and Netflix marathons. Before we know it, we are forgetting to approach each other with love and when blow-ups happen (and they DO happen) we forget to exercise temperance to avoid mowing over each other’s hearts. A lot can happen between the champagne toast on our wedding day and the first time we realize we completely lost our cool and pummeled our spouse during what should have been a civil discussion. Reminding ourselves to practice self-control is what today’s dare is all about — bringing us back to those early days when we picked our battles, thought about our words before we spoke them and prioritized the heart of our spouse above almost everything else.
The only way I know to get back to this place is through prayer. My own abilities are not sufficient and so I rely on God to get myself centered. Below are my go-to scriptures for self-control. I read them while taking my five-minute break from tough situation. This cool-down period helps me to get in the “love zone” before I re-approach my husband. I’m NOT perfect at this but the Love Dare is a great time to chip away at unloving habits and get back to the good stuff. I hope these words speak to you when you need them!
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith,23 gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there.
11 For the grace of God has appeared with salvation for all people, 12 instructing us to deny godlessness and worldly lusts and to live in a sensible, righteous, and godly way in the present age
2 Peter 1:5-9
5 For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with goodness, goodness with knowledge, 6 knowledge with self-control, self-control with endurance, endurance with godliness, 7 godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. 8 For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they will keep you from being useless or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 The person who lacks these things is blind and shortsighted and has forgotten the cleansing from his past sins.